Okay, guys, I know men don’t tend to read, but this book is a companion to last week’s book, and it’s made for you. It says so in the title.
If you want to understand your wife or girlfriend, read this book. And if you’re lazy, it even has a quick start guide to give you the Cliff Notes.
For Men Only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women
“Finally‒You “Can” Understand Her!
Women: Complicated and impossible to understand? Do you love and want to please the woman in your life, but just can’t seem to figure her out? That was before “For Men Only.” Now at your fingertips is the tool that will unlock the secret to her mysterious ways. Through hundreds of interviews and the results of a scientific national survey of women, this book demonstrates that women are actually not random and that they really can be systematized and “mapped.” In fact, much to men’s delight, this book shows that women are actually quite easy to understand and please‒as long as you know what it is they need. This simple map will guide you to loving your wife or girlfriend in the way she needs to be loved.
The bestselling author of “For Women Only” teams with her husband to offer men the key to unlocking women’s mysterious ways. Through Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn’s national scientific survey and hundreds of interviews, “For Men Only” reveals what you can do today to improve your relationship. And believe it or not, as Jeff assures men, “It’s not splitting the atom.”
Like before, we’ll look at what we understand and what it means in practice.
1: Women need to feel loved, which means in practice that even in a great relationship, she needs to know that your “I do” means “I still do.” I suspect this is why Casey wants to renew our vows one day.
2: Women are emotional. In practice, they deal with multiple thoughts and emotions from past and present simultaneously, like an internet browser with 30 tabs open, and they can’t close any of them.
3: Women are impossible to figure out. Actually, the behavior that confuses you most is often signaling a need she is asking you to meet.
4: Women want security, in other words, financial security. It’s actually emotional security and closeness with you that she needs. She’ll deal with less money if it means more time with you.
5: Women want you to listen, not to fix their problems. When she shares an emotional issue, her feelings and desire to be heard are much more important than the problem itself.
6: Women don’t want sex much‒which means she doesn’t want me. In practice, physically, they tend to crave it less, but it isn’t related to her man’s desirability…usually.
7: Women want to look attractive. Why? Because inside your smart, secure wife lives a little girl who deeply needs to know that you find her beautiful‒and that you only have eyes for her.
8: Have you seen the meme where the woman and man are in bed with their backs turned towards each other? She’s looking over her shoulder at him, thinking, “I bet he’s thinking of _____________.”
He’s staring at the wall, thinking of something completely different.
Apparently, our silence triggers our ladies. They can sense unspoken conflict and can jump to conclusions when we’re more withdrawn than usual.
The women surveyed said it makes a difference when a guy sees the misunderstanding for what it is and reassures her. For example, “I’m not mad, don’t worry. Just concerned about work.”
That’s a freebie. It really is a good book. 5 stars and it did help me understand Casey better.