Is It Really That Important?

Something to think about the next time you’re pissed at your spouse; you’re in a horrible argument and they finally throw up their arms, stomping off to the car to cool off. You watch them leave, still mad yourself because they just don’t get it. Time passes, they’re still not home. You wonder what the hell is taking them so long when you hear footsteps approaching the door.

‘Good’, you think, ’round two.’

However, they don’t come in so you go to the door as you hear a knock. Instead of your significant other you find a police officer with his hat in hand. Two miles away from your home there was an accident and your spouse died at the scene.

Life as you knew it just ended…

Was whatever you have ever argued about worth it? You would probably gladly take all the bad in exchange to see them alive just one more blessed moment. Instead your last words to each other filled with venom and anger. It’ll weigh on you as you’re filled with regrets. What if you hadn’t been arguing, then they’d never left and would still be here.

Remember, when you got together you signed up for the same team. They’re not your enemy and friendly fire isn’t so friendly, it’s just as lethal as enemy fire. Focus on the problem and keep the relationship the priority. Staying together is the line in the sand. Think about that the next time you argue, about what you gain OR lose by being ‘right’.

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“Marriage Isn’t About Desires of Adults”

I get a newsletter from the Heritage Foundation, a conservative think-tank, and this week I got one concerning the Supreme Court’s taking on Prop. 8 and the Defense Of Marriage Act. I thought to myself that this might be interesting; it also was infuriating to my personal philosophy. Here’s a link here so let’s take a look.

Those pressing the Supreme Court to overturn the federal Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) and California’s Proposition 8 essentially argue that marriage as we’ve always known it is not constitutional. But redefining marriage would make marriage about the desires of adults rather than the well-being of children.

That was the takeaway from a media briefing Tuesday at the National Press Club featuring Heritage’s Ryan T. Anderson, Claremont Institute legal scholar John C. Eastman, and Alliance Defending Freedom attorney Austin R. Nimocks (who is also co-counsel in the Prop 8 case).

“Government is not in the marriage business to regulate citizens’ romantic lives,” Anderson said. “Encouraging marriage is the only way to ensure adults take responsibility for their children.”

And what is DOMA? Regulation.

Redefining marriage to include same-sex relationships would further separate marriage from the reality that every child needs both a mother and a father, Anderson said, and transform the institution into whatever emotional bond the government says it is.

Say what? The damn welfare state and irresponsible heterosexual people are doing a bang up job of screwing up the ‘sanctity of marriage’. Look at Hollywood and the amount of kids on food stamps, government insurance, etc. And you know what? Everyone of them came from a heterosexual relationship. Let’s move on…

 Among the consequences: erosion of religious freedom and growth of the welfare state.

There is nothing “equal” about redefining marriage, Anderson said, a point he also made in a piece this week in The Washington Post. And the Court has held that same-sex marriage is not a fundamental right, said Eastman, author of Heritage’s legal memo on the marriage cases.

Religious freedom? Is someone else’s actions in their life going to come between you and your God? Does your God not realize it’s not your doing? Not very omniscient if it doesn’t. It’s not Biblical? I offer this…

Welfare state? You know what grows that? Democrats do. Republicans do. A supermajority of straight politicians. Excuses. The real growth comes from politicians bribing constituents with ‘free’ money.

This line…”same-sex marriage is not a fundamental right” If it’s not, then neither is heterosexual marriage and in the name of equality all marriages should be annulled or government gets the hell out of it and stays out.

“What is at stake is the constitutional authority of the American people,” Anderson said.

To that I offer this…

The powers not delegated to the United States by the Constitution, nor prohibited by it to the States, are reserved to the States respectively, or to the people.

The Tenth Amendment. There is nothing in the Constitution that supports DOMA as legal. However, State’s can define marriage under the 10th, however it’s not right. The Constitution is flawed after all, but I can argue with this point from the Declaration of Independence...”We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”

All men and women, straight, bisexual, homosexual, all races and creeds, are created equal free to their Life, Liberty to do what they want without physically harming another and pursuit of happiness, such as marrying whoever they love. Stating that someone has power to limit this flies in the face of what this country was founded on.

What would you do if a majority voted that you couldn’t marry your sweetheart?

Mine & Casey’s Wedding Video

Finally found time to try an idea I had. We have a big family (and they’re family now 😉 ) and to make it easier than burning and sending dozens of dvds. Hurray for technology. Now it’s on YouTube for the sappy types. I just give them the link. And here it is for you, my readers. If your sappy, never seen someone in a camo tie/tux vest, tennis shoes or a deaf/hearing couple get married you may enjoy the video.

I’m Back!!!!

It’s been an eventful two months. Howls From The Wolfpack was released on Amazon, Books-A-Million and Barnes & Noble. 47 copies sold. Then I focused on the wedding and now that epicness is over and immortalized on digital media.

By LaHollis Hill Photography

Casey got her big princess wedding. Heart-shaped arch, and almost 100 people showed up. Didn’t look like that much in the big church but yeah. I even got to allow my wolf nature out and break tradition a little. Camo tuxedo and my favorite pair of shoes, New Balances. I washed them of course.

From there it was off to the honeymoon in Hot Springs at the Butler Manor. Going to favorite restaurants, jacuzzi, hitting a lot of little shops, mini-golf and museums. I thought the wax museum would freak me out but I was wrong. I got pictures of me flipping the bird or throwing horns at a few of the exhibits(politicians got the bird). A few horror ones too. Yeah! And no honeymoon in Hot Springs is complete without hitting a spa. Casey got a little spoiled, and I got to see what the big deal is about massages. I know now. Man that felt good.

Now rested, recharged and no deadlines I’m back. Back to primal living instead of primalish, back to my workouts, and back on here writing. And tomorrow I’ll tell you why I think Obama will probably lose.

I’m Married!!!!!

My Sacred Vows I made to my Wife Casey Leann Hefner Gatlin on September 24, 2011.

For years I’ve hunted for the one I will spend the rest of my life with, and for years I thought I had failed.

Until one day as I wandered, I was the one who was found. My journey alone came to an end, as I now had a companion.

I realized that I had not failed at all before, I just hadn’t reached my turn off the path yet.

Today, I step off the path, hand in hand with the woman I love more than anything, taking our first steps on our eternal journey together.

Before we start I, Vance Gatlin II, have to say this…

With all my strength, heart, honor and love, vow that throughout our lives, no misstep or obstacle will ever stop my love for you or cause me to leave your side, instead I’ll catch you or pick you up, as I know you will do the same for me.

I vow that no illness will strike that I’ll not be right beside you fighting.

I vow that no other will come between us, for their isn’t any others because I can only see you.

And so, my Cherished Love, my Pinkly, Casey Leann Hefner, I give you this ring, as a symbol of my pure love and sacred promise, and now call you my Wife, forever together.

I wrote them myself, I feel that they have more meaning than quoting the pastor/officiant. I love you Casey Gatlin! As for the rest of you…see you after the honeymoon!

The Day I Proposed

I wrote the following on September 15 2009. I thought it fitting to post about the day I proposed the day before I get married. The Genesis if you will. Tomorrow right after I get married I have a post that will launch with the vows I wrote, showing the world, the love I have for Casey. Now onto the beginning…

It started on the morning of September 6 before we left for a family reunion on her mom’s side. I asked her dad for his blessing. Later at a cookout at her grandparents after eating, riding the horse and games her dad and I went to his house to get the ring out of my bag. Casey saw us leave but didn’t know the surprise I had planned. When we got back everyone was resting in the backyard. Casey was sitting. She looked around and EVERYONE was watching, with cameras ready. She looked at me as I reached in my pocket & pulled out the ring in its box. She jumped up before I could hit a knee. I open it up, she’s crying, I’m grinning. Then she whacks me on the chest. I sign & say, “Will you marry me?” She said yes. I put the ring on her trembling hand. Then the rush of family, congratulating, hand shakes, hugs, admiring the ring. Then we go see her brother, mom, her step-dad & Nana. More happiness. I’m still a little in shock. And extremely happy. 9 days later I’m still grinning.

Yes I’m sappy I know.

A Note To My Newest Readers

I noticed  since Howls From The Wolfpack was released on Amazon my site traffic has increased. Thanks for stopping by and/or looking at the book. Please leave a review on Amazon, good or bad, as long as its your honest opinion. I write this because my new readers may not know why my posts have changed and why they’re not as many a week.

With getting the book published took up a lot of time and I needed my full attention on that. Along with the fact that 9 days from now I will be getting married to my girlfriend of four years. Anyone who’s put a wedding together knows that’s a whirlwind of activity. I’ll be focused on this site again after September and starting the final part of the Breakdown Series on the Declaration of Independence, Bill of Rights, and the Constitution. Along with my scrutinizing stare at the world of politics and society.

When enough copies of Howls is sold I’ll start the process of releasing it on Kindle this winter. Other projects is two other books in the works, one structured like Howls but a solo book, and another on an expansion of the Breakdown series.

The big event approaches where I’ll read the greatest thing I ever wrote, my wedding vows. Speaking of which, I need to stop typing and practicing signing them. Check my archives, or find me on Twitter here, and see you soon.

Announcement: Ronin’s Journey’s Near Future

Since this blog was born 9 months ago I’ve posted 5 days a week. But for the near future, I’m going to cut down on the posting. I will post at least two times a week, continuing the “Breakdown” series on Fridays and the new one on how we’re a dictatorship now. And the occasional topics that I have to comment on like Gould, AR and Quartzite, AZ. Along with book updates.

The reason why is now I will be extraordinarily busy. 8 weeks until I’m married :mrgreen: , getting Howl’s out before September(still in the air, but closer every day), WolfFest (where me and the other Howls authors will get together) :D And a few days off for the honeymoon/recuperation from all this work :lol: Not a lot of time for steady writing, so I’ll be focusing my attention on the wedding, publishing and marketing the book  for the time being, instead of on here 5 times a week. Keep checking in, I won’t go away and remember, my subscribers are eligible to be drawn for a copy of Howl’s From The Wolfpack. And follow me if you Twitter here.

I’ll be back up to full speed ahead by October.