Day 2: What’s Marriage About?

What if marriage is about more than just your happiness?

That’s how the third session of Weekend to Remember opened up. It’s also a session where I took a lot of notes.

There is a purpose to marriage, and we began looking at that.

The Purpose of Marriage

The main point of the entire conference is ‘oneness’, and that oneness is to enable us to mirror God’s image. (Genesis 1:27)

It helps us to mutually complete one another by experiencing companionship. One thing I wrote in the margin was, “Marriage doesn’t cure loneliness, companionship within our marriage cures our loneliness.”

How?

We see ourselves as a team, we rely on each other, and have each other’s backs. Not codependent, where you need to be needed, or independent where you don’t need each other at all.

I liked the one tip where they said calendar your companionship. The marriage is the priority relationship within the family. It’s important if you have kids to reconnect without the kids once a week. It doesn’t even have to be a date night, just a conversation over coffee in the morning was one example.

Oneness is only possible when we consider our spouse before we think about ourselves. Why? The value message it sends.

In the margin I wrote:

You value what you:
Cheer for.
Sign up for.
Pay for.

I wrote it beside these verses from Phillippians 2:3-4 they quoted:

Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others as more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.

Think about how you can pursue companionship with your spouse.

It was a good weekend and I have more to share, like how to achieve oneness, confrontation, and the section where all the guys got together and talked about our role in the marriage. A lot happened but I’m only covering the parts I took the most notes on.

I encourage you to go to a FamilyLife event like Weekend to Remember, or the Art of Marriage.

Our friends’ blog posts about Weekend To Remember:

 

• And they lived Happily Ever After
• WTR – Day 1
• WTR – Day 2 Part 1
• WTR – Day 2 Part 2
• Marriage after Dark – WTR Day 2 Part 3
• WTR – Date Night
• WTR – Day 3